Break the [wounds + unawareness] cycle and guard your descendents
	Links to Effective Co-parenting Articles By Peter Gerlach, MSW Member NSRC Experts Council

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        One of five major co-parent hazards is unawareness of relationship and stepfamily basics. Patient study and discussion of these articles and related guidebooks with your other co-parents and supporters can help you offset this hazard. Bookmark this page as a self-education hub to grow your awareness of co-parenting "basics." Note the similar hubs for re/marriage and stepfamily basics. For helpful context, start with these:

• An introduction to the [wounds + ignorance] cycle that stresses many typical families (like yours?) slides or text;

• The unremarked U.S. re/divorce epidemic, and perspective on divorce and divorce-recovery (slide presentation)

        This page provides links to an array of articles and worksheets in three groups: 

• Co-parenting basics and tools

• Resolve common stepparent-stepchild problems, and...

• Resolve common stepsibling  problems.

 

        Generally, these articles comprise much of co-parent Projects 6,   9,and 10.  These and other resources are integrated in the guidebooks Stepfamily Courtship, Build a High-nurturance Stepfamily, and Build a Co-parenting Team after divorce and re/marriage (xlibris.com).

For fun and learning, try this brief daily stepfamily challenge before continuing. Other motivators: try these quizzes.  

       Note: clicking on any link will open a popup or new browser window (page). Use your browser's "back" button to return from the latter. Use these articles to augment, not replace, other qualified professional counsel. The "/" in re/marriage and re/divorce notes that it may be a stepparent's first union.

1) Co-parenting Basics and Tools

  Key questions and answers about co-parenting

  Slide presentations on effective communication basics and and problem-solving

  Premises about analyzing and solving relationship problems

  Options toward preventing stress and divorce in your family, community, or nation

  Evolve and use a family mission statement to guide you all

  An overview of what typical stepfamily grandparents need

  Resource: a site devoted to parenting teens effectively.
 

  = tools  (like checklists and worksheets)   /     = concepts and options

Overview: 28 family-  nurturance factors. How does your family rank?	Overview & options: common barriers to co-parenting teamwork	Overview: Build an effec-tive co-parenting team Your kids need you to!
Basic: 30+ adjustment needs typical minor and grown stepkids need help filling. Can you name them?	Typical goals of effective co-parents. What are yours?	Stepfamily co- parenting is different than bioparenting  in ~40 environmental ways!
Personality traits of effec-tive co-parents - which do you each have?	Why stepfamily co-paren-ting job (role) descriptions are vital, and how to make them.	Perspective on family spirituality and resolving religious conflicts
A sample personal  Bill of Rights.	Suggestions on effective stepfamily child discipline	Memos from and about your (step)kids.
Who "should" do what? A co-parents' responsi-bility inventory.	Worksheet: Affirm your stepfamily's strengths	How to pick an effective stepfamily counselor.
Build an effective stepfam-ily support network - and use it!	Build an effective co-parents' support group.	Worksheet: Typical blocks to effective com-munication
Help your kids reduce excessive shame and guilts to normal	Practical options for nur-turing a psychologically-wounded minor child	Strategies to improve communication out-comes with minor kids
Checklist: How well-balanced has your nuclear stepfamily been recently?	Helpful affirmations for co-parents	Ideas on co-parenting stepteens effectively
Perspective on effective co-parenting agree-ments	Co-parenting values-clarification worksheet. Do you know yours?	Selected inspirations to guide and comfort you along the way
Worksheet - are we ready to conceive or adopt a child?	Checklist: how well-bal-anced has your home been recently?	Use structural maps to understand and manage your co-parenting homes

2) Resolve Common Stepparent-Stepchild Problems

  A slide presentation on effective stepparenting

 3) Resolve Common Stepsibling Problems

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Updated December 28, 2008