Article # and title:
Co-Parenting Basics
Review:
10-1)
Project 10 overview
Review:
Traits
of high-nurturance families
Review:
Perspective on Dr. Erik Erikson's 8 stages of
human development
Review:
Four sets of
ingredients for a
nurturing, satisfying relationship
Review:
What Is a
family
mission statement, and why make one?
Review: ~30
merger-adjustment tasks typical stepfamily co-parents must master (two pages)
10-2)
What's
an effective co-parent?
(two pages)
10-3)
An attitude inventory for co-parents
10-4)
Common primary stepfamily
problems, and
their surface symptoms
10-5)
Checklist:
- Basic long-term co-parenting goals
10-6)
Checklist:
- Personality traits of effective parents
10-7)
40 ways stepfamily co-parents' environments are unique
(two pages)
10-8) Worksheet
- our current
co-parenting values
Review:
A sample
Bill of Personal Rights
10-9) Sample affirmations for
co-parents
10-10)
Premises about solving relationship problems
- (two pages)
10-11)
Perspective on, and options for, helping kids convert
shame into self-love and respect, and manage
their guilts effectively - (two pages)
10-12)
Suggestions for co-parents managing stepfamily
changes effectively -
(two pages)
Family Roles and Relationships
Review:
basics about family roles and rules
10-13)
Core team-building
barriers (diagram + links)
Q
& A and articles about mates and re/marriage
(Project 8)
Q & A
and
about ex-mate relationships
Q & A about
stepparents and
stepkids, and related
articles
Q & A
and articles about
Q &
A and articles
Co-parenting
Stepchildren
About the Kids
10-14)
A summary of typical
children's developmental needs
10-15)
Four concurrent sets of needs
typical stepkids need help
with
10-16)
How to assess
a stepchild's
needs
10-17)
A memo
from your stepchild (five brief
reprints)
10-18)
Stepparent-stepchild
basics
10-19)
Effective co-parenting of
stepteens
10-20) Improve relations
with adult stepkids
Effective Child
Discipline
10-21)
Introduction:
effective
child discipline in stepfamilies
Review -
Strategies for effective communication with minor kids
10-22)
General child-discipline guidelines
10-23)
Guidelines for effective
stepfamily
child-discipline
10-24) Effective
discipline with stepchildren (builds
on 10-14, 15, & 16)
10-25)
Worksheet:- Discovering our
child-discipline styles
Reduce Stepparent - Stepchild
Problems
Review:
Effective
Stepparenting - a slide presentation
10-26) Options for relating
to a psychologically-wounded stepchild
10-27) Asserting and
maintaining effective boundaries
with stepkids
10-28) Understanding and
adapting to stepchild disinterest
10-29)
Adapting to dislike from or of a
stepchild
10-30) Options for responding to a
disrespectful stepchild
10-31) Options for adapting
to distrusting a stepchild
10-32) Options for
responding to stepchild hostility
10-33) Options for
understanding and reducing stepparent guilts
10-34) About
love between stepchild and stepparent
10-35) Options for reacting
to sexual attraction between a stepparent
and stepchild
10-36) Options for resolving
stepparent - stepchild name and title
conflicts
Common
Co-parenting Issues
Review:
identify and resolve
co-parenting
values and loyalty conflicts
Review: identify and
resolve family relationship triangles
10-37)
Effective communications between
mates and co-parents
10-38)
Make effective co-parent "job
descriptions" based on your family
mission statement
10-39 )
Worksheet: -
Co-parenting responsibilities in our
stepfamily, part 1 >
part 2 >
part 3
> part 4
10-40)
Evolve successful child
visitations
10-41)
Resolving child custody disputes
10-42) Reduce conflicts
over child support (money)
10-43) Resolve disputes
about holidays and family celebrations
10-44) Pros and cons of
conceiving an "ours" child
10-45) Worksheet -
are we ready to conceive or adopt a child?
10-46) Reducing
conflicts over a child changing
primary homes
10-47) Pros and cons of
stepchild adoption
10-48) Negotiate
agreements when a custodial parent wants to move
10-49) Reduce conflicts
over religion and
sexual preferences
10-50)
Reduce problems around a dead ex mate
10-51) Perspective on evolving
and maintaining effective legal parenting
agreements
10-52)
Alternatives to legal orders of restraint and
protection (two pages)
See also...
+ + +
The guidebook
for