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The [Wounds + Unawareness] Cycle
  • From clinical research since 1986, this presentation summarizes a lethal stressor for average people and families: unawareness and psychological wounds.
  • Until family adults understand and reduce both stressors, they unintentionally pass them on to their kids - spreading the toxic [wounds + ignorance] cycle in our culture.
  • This 7-slide presentation…
    • summarizes this toxic cycle, and …
    • Includes links to articles about identifying and reducing wounds and unawareness.
  • The ideas here apply to all adults, whether they’re parents or not.
  • Pause and say out loud what you seek here – why are you reading this?
  • To view or hide the slide index, click “Outline” in the lower-left corner of your screen.
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Contents
  • Suggestion: study these slides in order before following links to more detailed articles. To return to the last-viewed slide, click the left arrow
    • Basic premises – are you a “Grown Wounded Child”?
    • Unawareness of what?
    • A diagram of the [wounds + unawareness] cycle
    • How to break the cycle
    • Options and feedback
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Are You a “GWC”?
  • See if you agree with these premises:
  • Families exist to fill the physical + psychological + and spiritual needs of their adults and kids  - i.e. to nurture.
  • Adults’  knowledge and wholistic health determine how well they fill their family members’ needs, so families range from “low nurturance” to “high nurturance”
  • When young kids experience significant abuse, neglect, and/or abandonment in low-nurturance homes, they develop up to six psychological “wounds”:
    • Excessive shame, guilts, fears, and reality distortions (like denial),
    • Difficulty trusting people appropriately, and possibly…
    • An inability to feel. love, and bond with other people.
  • Unless they get knowledgeable help to reduce their wounds, kids become  “Grown Wounded Children” (GWCs). They show behavioral symptoms of their wounds.
  • Their wounds + unawareness promote significant problems like abuse, abandonment, self-neglect, divorce, abortion, obesity, addiction, crime, gangs, bigotry, cults, school dropouts, depression. suicide, homelessness, murder, corruption, and  illness.
  • Unhealed GWCs tend to unconsciously choose other GWCs as mates and associates,  repeatedly, despite major stress – so GWC mates often divorce.
  • GWC couples unconsciously co-create low-nurturance families and wound their kids.
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Unawareness of What?
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How the Cycle Works
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How to Break the Cycle
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What’s Next?