Break the [wounds + unawareness] cycle and guard your descendents

Inspirations to Focus and
Comfort You Along the Way
p. 8 of 10

Collected by Peter K. Gerlach, MSW


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"If a man does not keep pace with his companions,

perhaps it is because he hears a different drummer.

Let him step to the music which he hears,

however measured and far away."

- Henry David Thoreau


By Harry Dudley; Calgary, Alberta, Canada

I feel I am beginning to
achieve clarity about my confusion.

So now I must try harder to relax.

And I will be myself as soon as someone tells me who l am.

And my way of living my life is to not live my life.

And I will control your
criticizing me by giving you all my power.

And I will meet my
profound intimacy needs by choosing a
a partner who will r
un away.

And I find it very
important to focus on my flaws and faults, in order to achieve my goal of being perfect.

And I have a theory that there is a conspiracy to
deprive me of my
conspiracy theories

And my mistakes
would be more forgivable If I wasnít
already a mistake

And I am becoming increasingly arrogant
about how humble I am.

And I don't mind
being spontaneous
as long as I don't lose control.

And to have no identity has become my identity.

And if I develop an identity I will not know
who I am.

And my ongoing search for truth requires that
I blame someone.


And I will be authentic
as soon as I know it is safe.

And l am so adjusted to feeling bad that when I feel good, I must feel very bad in order to destroy feeling good.

And since I know that joy is followed by
suffering, Iíll control my suffering by avoiding joy.

And if you really love me, you know what
I need; so my asking for my needs means 
You donít love me.

And how dare you 
call me defensive?

And the only way I know that I am alive is to be so depressed that I want to die.


And I will be a better
person with inherent worth and value as soon as I prove myself.

And since I know I am invisible I must ignore that you donít ignore me.

And l only criticize you
out of my sincere need for honesty.

And I welcome change in my life as long as it doesnít affect my routine.

And now that I have resolved my confusion and achieved clarity of
vision, I will strive for simplicity in my life - imitating the Buddha
and Christ conscious- ness...

By allowing the unfold- ing universe to provide me with all my material needs and wants - as soon as Iím wealthy.

* This is a marvelous example of someone in true recovery from false-self wounding,
affectionately poking fun at most of the very real symptoms we work to heal.
- PKG 


One night a man had a dream. He dreamed s/he was walking along the beach with the Lord. Across the sky flashed scenes from his life. For each scene, he noticed two sets of footprints in the sand. One belonged to him, and the other to the Lord.

   When the last scene of his life flashed before him, he looked back at the footsteps in the sand. He noticed that many times along the path of his life, there was only one set of footprints. He also noticed that it happened at the very lowest, saddest times in his life.

This really bothered him, and he questioned the Lord about it. "Lord, you said that once I decided to follow you, you'd walk with me all the way. But I've noticed that during the most troublesome times in my life, there is only one set of footprints. I don't understand why when I needed you most, you would leave me."

The Lord replied, "My precious, precious child - I love you and I would never leave you during your times of trial and suffering. When you see only one set of footprints, It was then that I carried you."

- Author unknown

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