How to
Free Your True Self
If a
takes over your
now, you can learn to
free your wise
(capital "S") to guide you with steps like these:
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Study
and identify
your
team of subselves over time;
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Remind yourself that (a) all your subselves
mean well, and (b) may
fuse with (disable) your Self if they don't trust her or him yet.
Also recall that (c) distrustful
Guardian subselves take over your Self when they
sense an
Inner Child is - or may be - upset.
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Breathe well, focus on your
current emotions and
thoughts and ask the subself causing them now to "step
aside" from your Self so s/he can make effective decisions now. Reassure the
subself you (your Self) will help fill her/his needs as soon as you can. If the
subself re-fuses to "unblend," use
"parts work" to gain this subself's trust.
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Now see if you feel some of these
If not, repeat these steps with the next subself who has taken
over your Self. There may be sev-eral Guardians and/or inner kids who have
done so.
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Option: thank the subselves for
cooperating, and follow up on attending their current needs. Reassure
yourself that this sequence will become automatic with patience and
practice.
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