About Divorce-prevention Projects 1-7 (of 12)

These overlap and build on each other, so the order counts. They're best begun during courtship:

1) Assess honestly for false-self wounds, and help each other reduce any you find;

2) Help each other grow fluency in seven effective-communication skills, and teach them to your kids;

3) Accept your stepfamily identity, learn what it means, and agree on who belongs (is included in) your stepfamily;

4) Help each other turn ~ 60 stepfamily myths into realistic role and relationship expectations

5) Learn good-grief basics, free any blocked grief, and evolve and use a family pro-grief policy.

6) Evolve a stepfamily mission (vision) statement together, and use it to draft co-parent job descriptions and resolve conflicts.

7) Use all you've learned from Projects 1-6 to commit to the right adults and kids, for the right reasons, at the right time.