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How would you define abandonment to a pre-teen child? Have you ever felt abandoned - ignored, scorned, and rejected by some-one you depended on? Young children whose wound-ed caregivers aren't emotionally or physically available enough adapt instinctively to survive. They develop an "Abandoned Child" personality subself and one or more protective Guardian subselves like a Fantasizer, Magician, and/or People-plea-ser. The first two are specialists at distracting inner child-ren from terror, shame, hurt, and anger. The Pleaser special-izes in eliciting attention, acceptance, and praise from other people. These subselves promote the wide-spread adult con-dition of codependence (relationship addiction). Typical adults in troubled (low-nurturance) families often survived agonizing early-childhood abandonment (neglect) and abuse. They're covertly dominated by overactive Guardian sub-selves and the inner children they protect - a "false self." Fami-ly Project 1 provides an effective way for adults to calm exces-sive shame and fears, redirect Guardian subselves, and em-power the resident true Self (capital "S") to harmonize and guide other subselves. detail / Q&A / Lesson 1 index and guidebook / example / close |
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