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Would you agree that (a) occasional moderate worrying is normal and useful, and (b) excessive and/or constant worry can be a serious distrac-tion from daily productivity and serenity? Do you know someone who wor-ries excessively or all the time? Premise - normal people have personalities composed of specialists ("subselves") just like orchestras and sports teams. A universal (?) Guar-dian subself can be called the Worrier. Paradoxically, s/he relentlessly tries to help the host person by causing (a) major anxieties and (b) persistent thoughts whose theme is "What if (something bad happens?") Often the Worrier is activated by upset Inner children and/or tireless Inner Critic and Perfectionist subselves. This differs from similar protective be-havior caused by the diligent Catastrophizer subself, who's mantra is "OmiGod, (the worst possible thing) will surely happen!" Subselves have limited world-views and logic for fulfilling their person-ality roles. What seems frustrating or harmful to an objective observer seems helpful to Guardian subselves like the Worrier. Commonly, s/he (a) distrusts the resident wise true Self to manage daily affairs safely, and (b) insists that only by endlessly reviewing possible failures, misfortunes, and problems can the host person stay marginally safe enough. Family Project 1 here provides a way of (a) safely identifying your subselves and their "jobs," (b) gradually harmonizing them to follow the ex-pert leadership of your resident Self (capital "S") and your Higher Power, and (c) manifesting your true life purpose. As this happens, Guardian sub-selves like the Worrier agree to relax and (often) switch to a more helpful personality role. more detail / slides / Lesson 1 guidebook & links / research / Q&A / close |
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