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Typical Traits of [Wounded + Unaware] Couples
Premise - When typical committed partners are each ruled often by
(wounded), and unaware of themselves and key topics, they exhibit observable
personal and
mutual behaviors. The latter include several or all of these...
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each partner often
feeling unheard, disrespected, and misunderstood;
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trying to fill unmet
needs with ineffective strategies like
despite
recurring or increasing frustrations and dissatisfactions;
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denial of escalating
addictions
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conflicts over emotional and physical
intimacy
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often preferring
time
with work and/or friends vs. each other
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c/overt emotional
and/or sexual
affairs
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increasing
distrusts,
avoidances, impatience, and emotional volatility
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publicly ridiculing,
name-calling, and/or criticizing
the other partner
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accumulating
relationship hurts, resentments,
guilts, and angers
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frequently feeling
like opponents (you vs. me) rather than true partners ("us"), and rarely sharing 2-person
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avoiding couples
counseling, and/or getting little from it
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repeated cycles of
aggression and remorse
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choosing other
confidants, and denying or justifying this
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significant episodes
of indifference or "getting even" (punishment).
Every "troubled" couple will have
unique mixes and versions of these traits.
in this nonprofit
Web site are about spotting and cooperatively reducing traits like
these. Detail
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