Stepfamily role play Name ___________________
WORKSHEET 2) – GET DIVORCED (30")
One or both of the parents in your biofamily have decided to divorce, after years of frustration, dissatisfaction, and good times. In preparing for Dad’s moving out, all of you negotiate decisions on the following. Fill out this worksheet after all family members discuss each item together. Notice your feelings and thoughts as you do…
1) Why is your family divorcing - specifically?
2) How do you parents explain this to your child/ren? Who explains?
3) In this role-play, Dad will leave home. Which child/ren will go with him, if any?
4) Who will have legal custody of each child? _______________________________________
5) Who will pay who child support? _______________________________________________
6) How much? $____________ How often? _______________________________________
7) Who will provide major medical coverage? _______________________________________
8) Will Mom have to change her work? (Y / N) If so, how will that affect your family?
9) Will Mom and remaining household members have to move? (Y / N) If so, when?
Note other key divorce factors for your family, like relatives, kids’ schooling, vacations, friendships, holidays, wills, etc.
Child Visitations: Assume Dad will live within 40 miles of Mom after separation.
10) How often will your kids see their other parent? __________________________________
11) How will they get there and back? _____________________________________________
12) What special arrangements or conditions exist - e.g. music lesson practice, homework help, medications or health practices, church attendance... ?
13) How will Thanksgiving visitations be handled - i.e. which child will go where, for how long? Who will transport kids to and from?
Stop here. If you finish before other families, share with each other how you've been feeling as you answer the above. In this family, how do the kids' and adults divorce needs compare? What do the kids need the most now? Do they understand why the adults are divorcing? If you have an observer, s/he can ask questions here, like a reporter. Note anything you weren’t aware of before.
Awarenesses - things I want to remember: