Stepfamily Reality # 8

        Typical co-parents' relatives and friends are often unaware of stepfamily realities. So they often mistakenly expect a new stepfamily household, roles, and relationships to feel and act pretty much like (their image of) a traditional intact biofamily.

        They also may secretly or openly disapprove of prior  divorces, cohabiting, the new partner, and/or the re/marriage. So when co-parents experience stepfamily problems and disillusion-ments, friends and relatives may be startlingly unempathic and critical, and/or offer inappropriate (i.e. biofamily) advice. Also see realities 56-57.