Seven vital Self-improvement Lessons
	Is the lethal [wounds + unawareness] cycle stressing your family? By Peter K. Gerlach, MSW Member NSRC Experts Council

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  Updated  01-02-2015 

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      This brief YouTube video summarizes the cycle of inherited psychological wounds and unawareness outlined below. The video notes 8 lessons in this self-inprovement Web site - I've simplified that to seven.

      This ad-free Web site exists to alert people like you to psychological [wounds + unawareness] that silently pass down the generations and stress most people, families, and societies. I propose this unseen inheritance after 36 years as a family-systems therapist. During that time, I have never seen a version of this cycle, nor any research that confirms it. I have found many research studies that confirm parts of this toxic cycle.

THE LETHAL [ WOUNDS + UNAWARENESS ] CYCLE

Five primary problems... 1)  public unawareness and denial of inherited [psychological wounds + unawareness] and their effects (below); and... 2)  public tolerance for unqualified child-conceptions and inadequate parenting (which wounds young kids), resulting in... 3)  no public or professional education on epidemic early-childhood neglect, abandonment, and abuse (trauma) and its toxic effects (red box below), and therefore... 4)  no effective federal or state legislation to motivate parents toward responsible child conception and effective nurturing, and... 5)  no demand for public media attention to these four problems.  ...cause these epidemic secondary problems
6 PSYCHOLOGICAL WOUNDS personality fragmenting excessive shame and guilts excessive fears excessive reality distortions overtrusting or undertrusting difficulty feeling, empathizing, and bonding	+  PUBLIC IGNORANCE OF... psychological wounds effective communication healthy grieving healthy relationships high-nurturance families effective parenting, and... the effects of inherited wounds and ignorance (below)	+  PERSONAL UNAWARENESS OF... my inner process my primary needs your primary needs our social dynamics our environment, and... healthy spirituality
...which combine to cause surface problems...

personal problems addictions aggression depression impulsivity delusions egotism fears eating disorders intolerance isolation / loneliness manipulation "mental illnesses" mood disorders shyness self neglect obsessions toxic compulsions paranoias low self esteem suicide poverty some physical illness premature death	family problems abandonments abuse abortions arguing and fighting marital affairs child neglect desertions dishonesty distrust disrespect domestic violence legal divorce psychological divorce values conflicts relationship triangles loyalty conflicts financial conflicts unwise marriages unwise child conceptions toxic parenting parental alienation legal battles ex-mate conflicts	societal problems bankruptcies bigotry / prejudice bulging jails political corruption crime (all forms) dysfunctional families public cynicism mounting deficits drug trafficking school dropouts ecological damage gangs homelessness public scams excessive litigation murder terrorism overconsumption fear of change resource depletion public ignorance urban decay the welfare industry
These promote the primary problems above so inherited [psychological wounds + ignorance] silently spread down our generations

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      This unseen bequest of psychological wounds and ignorance can be stopped, once people are aware of it and its effects.

  Solutions

      The diagram above outlines a complex long-term social process that average people don't see. So they will continue to try solving surface problems (red box above) without affecting the primary problems causing them.

      Options for breaking this cycle include enforceable federal and state laws requiring that...

• funding be provided to test and verify or disprove this proposed toxic cycle;

• all high school, college, and military text books and curricula must explain the cycle objectively, and school and teaching certification must require demonstrated staff knowledge of it,

• human-service licensing must include testing for comprehension of the cycle and its main impacts on people and families;

• immigrants must demonstrate comprehension of the cycle and its effects before citizenship is granted;

• marriage licensing should include mandatory education on the cycle, and screening for psychological wounds

• public and private health clinics should include programs to help people understand, assess for, and reduce psychological wounds - specially if they're parents

• jail inmates should receive mandatory education on the cycle and its effects, and optional counseling toward reducing their psychological wounds;

• doctors and clergy should inform pregnant couples of this toxic cycle and what it can mean to them and any descendents;

• the media should be encouraged or required to weave knowledge of this cycle into their programming, including public service announcements;

• welfare programs should inform their clients of the cycle and its effects and provide optional screening and counseling for psychological wounds.

      Laws like these won't happen unless legislators (a) understand and accept the cycle and its effects, or (b) voters demand that federal and state governments enact them. Because of epidemic wounds + denial + unawareness, the latter us unlikely.

  Feedback please - how motivated are you to alert others to this cycle?

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