Break the inheitred [wounds + unawareness] cycle!
Formerly "Stepfamily inFormation"

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Peter Gerlach photo Peter Gerlach, MSW has been a professional family-systems  researcher, educator, and therapist specializing in stepfamilies since 1979. A Stanford graduate, he was an engineer, trainer, and manager for GT&E and IBM for 17 years. He has been a stepson, step-grandson, stepbrother of four, and the stepfather of two girls.

     Peter spent two years researching lay and professional step-family literature published between 1979 and 1980 for his social work Master's-degree thesis, and has taken over 400 hours of clinical post-graduate training in a wide range of topics since then. He has consulted with well over 1,000 typical Midwestern divorcing and stepfamily co-parents since 1981.

       He co-founded the nonprofit Stepfamily Association of Illinois, Inc. (SAI) with interested others in 1981. Shortly after that, he was invited to join the Board of Directors of the Stepfamily Association of America  (SAA) by its founders, Drs. John and Emily Visher. He later served on the SAA Advisory Council, and was invited to rejoin the Board in March, 2002 by President Marjorie Engel.

        After SAA passed it's mission to the National Stepfamily Resource Center, Peter became a member of the NSRC Stepfamily Experts Council.

       Since 1981, Peter has taken over 3,000 calls on the Stepfamily inFormation "warm-line." He moder-ated the "Stepfamily Issues" forum at Divorcenet.com for two years, and has answered over 500 online stepparenting questions at AllExperts.com. He rejoined AllExperts.com 8/08 as an expert in effective communication.

        He's learned from hundreds of typical stepfamily co-parents from all walks of life, in over 18,000 hours of personal consultations, classes, and workshops. He has published his learnings in these (evol-ving) non-profit Web pages, several magazines, and a series of guidebooks for lay and professional readers. Peter was also a contributing editor for the recent e-magazine Your Stepfamily Online.

        Gerlach has designed a series of online PowerPoint presentations on key topics in this nonprofit site. He also has created a seven-session, 17-hour class for stepfamily co-parents, and led versions of it for dozens of groups in the Chicago area.

        He's also taught a half-day portion of a family-life weekend seminar for 40 groups of remarrying couples. One module is a unique three-hour stepfamily role-play for groups of 12 or more people to help raise their awareness experientially.

        Gerlach has also led over 400 classes and seminars for adults and teens on interpersonal commun-ications skills; healthy grieving; anger management, addictions, divorce recovery; effective single paren-ting; and recovery from low-nurturance -childhood wounds.

        His sponsors have included the State of Illinois; Cook County States Attorney's Office, the Catholic Diocese (Family Life Office) of Rockford, Mothers Without Custody, major Chicago-area businesses; Governors State, Northeastern Illinois, and Northern Illinois universities; and many local schools, chur-ches, and mental-health agencies. He has appeared on local and national radio and NBC television speaking on these topics.    

        As the son of two functional alcoholics, Peter has been in proactive "ACoA" recovery since 1986. This has led to adopting and using inner-family therapy to promote individual clients' recovery from up to six "false self" wounds related to growing up in low-nurturance childhoods.

        Work with over 1,000 average Midwestern-US clients suggests that over 80% of the adults in typical troubled relationships and families are Grown Wounded Children (GWCs) and don't (want to) know it, or what it probably means to them and their kids. All this work has led him recently to promote preventing the unremarked [wounds + unawareness] cycle that seems to be spreading in and weakening our culture now.  

        Peter has been adapting to diabetes and an incurable muscle-wasting disease that increasingly limits his physical abilities. He has years of personal experience as a step-grandson, adult stepson, stepfather of two girls, stepbrother of four, step-cousin, and step-uncle-in-law. He retired from his physical private practice in January 2006, and does phone consultations now from Portland, Oregon (USA).

        To contact Peter go here, or join and use the Break the Cycle! discussion board (8/08).

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