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One of the Guardian subselves that wounded survivors of childhood trauma develop can be described by the labels above. Like all Guardi-ans, it aims to protect scared or endangered inner kids in several ways. This well-meaning subself strives to reduce the Shamed Child's in-tense feelings of worthlessness, powerlessness, ugliness, and unlova-ability. It also seeks to distract worried, sad, lost, bored, and/or scared inner kids by seeking sensual and sexual activity, excitement, and con-quest. When teamed with the Addict/Comforter subself, this can result in "sex addiction," including compulsive use of pornography and/or voyeur-ism to self-medicate from unbearable chronic inner pain. A person often controlled by the Whore/Stud and Lusty Teen sub-selves can come to believe that their identity and self-worth hinges on being sexually attractive and aggressive. Paradoxically, this belief can increase inner pain because of their Inner Critic's and Moralist's acid dis-approval and self disgust. The Magician can try to minimize this by jus-tifying and reframing compulsive sexual thoughts and actions as normal and healthy. These and other dedicated subselves acting together can overwhelm the wise resident true Self until the host person hits true bottom and in-tentionally chooses to free their Self (capital "S") and harmonize all their personality subselves. self-improvement Lesson 1 provides an effective frame-work for doing this. Detail / Q&A / Lesson 1 guide, links, & book / skeptical? / close |
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