| base address: http://sfhelp.org/ | Worksheet / Checklist Title |
 LESSON 1 - Assess and reduce psychological wounds |
| gwc/1_traits.htm | Behavioral traits of psychological wounds |
| gwc/3_tree.htm (2 pages) | Assess your family tree for wounded ancestors |
| gwc/4_grouptraits.htm | Typical traits of high and low-nurturance group members. |
| gwc/hi_n_org.htm | 30 traits of typical high-nurturance organizations |
| gwc/false_self.htm | Behavioral traits of living under the control of a "false self" |
| gwc/wounds/shame.htm (2 pages) | Behavioral symptoms of excessive shame |
| gwc/wounds/fears.htm (2 pages) | Behavioral symptoms of excessive fears (anxieties) |
| gwc/wounds/distort.htm | Behavioral symptoms of excessive reality distortions |
| gwc/wounds/distrust.htm | Behavioral symptoms of excessive trust and distrust |
| gwc/wounds/bonding.htm (2 pages) | Behavioral traits of being unable to bond and exchange love |
| gwc/codep.htm (2 pages) | Behavioral traits of codependence (relationship addiction) |
| gwc/maturity.htm | Requisites for "personal growth" and criteria for judging perfsonal "maturity" |
| gwc/assets.htm | An inventory of your personal assets |
| LESSON 2 - Learn Effective-communication Basics and Skills |
| cx/quiz2.htm | A quiz on effective-communication basics |
| cx/skills/assert_profile.htm | A profile of your personal assertion style |
| cx/blocks.htm (2 pages) | 30 communication blocks, and options for resolving them |
| cx/tools/phrases.htm | Sample questions and phrases that promote effective communications. |
| cx/tools/strengths.htm | A personal communication-strengths inventory |
| cx/skills/think.htm (3 pages) | Worksheet and article: are you a "fuzzy thinker"? |
| cx/tools/I-msg.htm | A worksheet for devising effective "I"-message assertions |
| cx/skills/listen-inventory.htm | Evaluate how effective a listener you are (or someone else is) |
| cx/skills/meta_wks.htm | "Metatalk" communication-skill guidelines and examples |
| cx/skills/ps_inventory.htm | Worksheet - constructive and destructive problem-solving traits |
| LESSON 3 - Evolve a healthy family-grieving policy, and free any blocked grief |
| grief/quiz3.htm | A quiz on "good-grief" basics |
| grief/abstract.htm | Intangible losses from divorce, (re)marriage, and/or cohabiting. |
| grief/physical.htm | tangible losses from divorce, (re)marriage, and/or cohabiting |
| grief/values.htm | A grief values-clarification worksheet. |
| LESSON 4 - optimize your relationships |
| Basics |
| relate/quiz4.htm | How much do you know about relationships? |
| relate/mates/course.htm | A self-improvement courtship course for childless couples |
| relate/strnx9_all+score.htm | Inventory: our extended-stepfamily strengths (concluded); and "scoring" this 11-page strengths inventory. |
| relate/mates/people.htm | Am I marrying the right partner? |
| relate/mates/reasons.htm | Are we re/marrying for the right reasons? |
| relate/mates/time.htm | Is it the right time to marry? |
| relate/keys/attitudes.htm | An "attitude inventory" for family adults |
| relate/mates/profile.htm (2-pages) | Inventory: our relationship's strengths and stressors |
| relate/mates/priority.htm | Worksheet - identify someone's recent life priorities. |
| relate/mates/needs.htm | What typical mates needs from each other |
| relate/mates/divorce.htm (4 pages) | 29 alternatives to re/divorce |
| LESSON 5 - Evolve a High-nurturance Family |
| fam/health.htm | 30 traits of a high-nurturance family |
| fam/lc.htm | A family loyalty-conflict assessment worksheet. |
| LESSON 6 - Learn to Parent (Nurture) Effectively |
| parent/conception.htm | A worksheet to help make wise conception or adoption decisions |
| parent/goals.htm | A checklist of basic parenting goals, and a definition of "effective" stepfamily co-parent. |
| parent/traits.htm | Personality traits of effective parents - do they describe you ? |
| parent/values.htm | Worksheet: our current co-parenting values. |
| help/sg/plan1.htm | Co-parent support-group goal-setting, guidelines, and topics |
| help/worksheet.htm | Worksheet: Where I stand with 59 inner-personal supports. |
| LESSON 7 - evolve a high-nurturance stepfamily |
| sf/date/divorce_rcvry_wks.htm | Checklist: symptoms of an "unfinished" divorce |
| sf/date/co_p.htm | Am I committing to the right co-parents? |
| sf/date/partner.htm | Am I committing to the right partner? |
| sf/date/reasons.htm | Are we committing for the right reasons? |
| sf/date/time.htm | Is it the right time to remarry? Individual co-parent factors. |
| sf/date/stepkid.htm | Am I committing to the right stepkids? |
| sf//myths.htm | 60 common stepfamily myths and realities |
| sf//expect.htm | 60 common stepfamily expectations |
| sf/merge.htm | 16 "things" typical new steppeople must combine and stabilize. |
| parent/kid_needs.htm | Typical stepkids' 60 developmental, healing, and adjustment needs |
| sf/co/wks.htm | Worksheet for clarifying stepfamily co-parents' responsibilities |
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